Who doesn’t like playing games?
Hide and seek? I’m sure everybody remembers it and, unconsciously, still plays the game even if they’re all grown up. We tend to do so especially in our relationships. We are afraid to share our true selves from the beginning and we mask everything through riddles and cryptic words. Ancient stories have riddles, why wouldn’t we adjust them to keep them alive in modern times?
What is it that we really hide and what is it that we really seek when we decide to embark on this game? The answer is quite simple and has been carved within our human nature for as long as we’ve been living on this Earth. It’s the thrill that we are after and the limits that we want to test – our partner’s and ours as well. It doesn’t matter if we are talking about love, friendships or, in some adjusted ways, about business partnerships.
Is he/she worth it? Does he/she deserve to know me? It’s almost like a hunting game.
We’re switching the roles between us, never afraid of playing with fire and tempting our inner demons and those of the one that is our target. There is no thrill when things come the easy way! There’s no satisfaction! The human nature wasn’t built like that. We are meant to chase what we want! This is what ignites the flame and makes us fall in love! Wrestling with the snakes and the darkness within each other, we are building together a light that is known just to us two. We explore the pain and turn it into pleasure each time we drive one another insane. It is in these moments that we hide ourselves, waiting and hoping for the other person to seek the things we’ve hidden and by doing so, for him/her to raise to our expectations.
“The human face is, after all, nothing more nor less than a mask.” (Agatha Christie)
There’s no need for him/her to do that in the same way we would have done it, but the truth is we yearn to see the endeavor behind the act itself. We are meant to be challenged by our opponent and not get caught in a boring routine. That is actually the main reason why relationships tend to fail after some years. The partners are no longer challenging to one another, they just separate and feel too safe in their place, thinking that they’ve conquered each other’s heart and that there’s nothing left for them to do.
“Once we get the things we are striving for, we rarely remain satisfied with them. The things are just the bait. Chasing after them forces us to evolve, and it is the evolution and not the rewards themselves that matters to us and to those around us. This means that for most people success is struggling and evolving as effectively as possible.” (Ray Dalio)
“Life may be an arcane riddle, a play with many complementary acts or an unfinished chronicle with odd sequences. Still and all, whatever we might think or do, let us above all be attentive and expectant, since everyone is waiting for the pieces to fall into place, at one time or another.” (Erik Pevernagie)
Today, she found herself writing in her journal while sitting on the bench in front of the lake. It was cold outside, but she was witnessing the most amazing sunset and it filled her with inspiration. Not only did she felt inspiration, but also a riot inside of her clawing the depths of her soul, tearing up everything she once knew and felt deep inside… opening ancient wounds and setting on fire her body from the inside. She closed her notebook and left it there, while she approached the edge.
She could see her reflection crumbling in the water… But was she the one that looked back up to her?!